Many times everyone gets so involved in the planning process that the bride tends to be the center of attention, and sometimes, we may forget about the groom (yes, even the wedding planners). Often times we, Katie and Jill, may meet the groom at the initial consultation and then not even see the groom again until the wedding day! Yes, as crazy as it sounds, it’s the truth! So recently we were asked by one of our Charlotte, NC grooms, “What should I be doing during the planning process?” As planners, Katie and I jumped for joy and immediately supplied our groom-to-be with a list of his wedding duties.
The Beverage Bar
The bar is one of the most common things that our brides will put their husbands-to-be in charge of for the wedding. Generally, the groom determines (with the wedding planners assistance) how much of their budget can handle the bar and what types of alcohol should be served. So grooms, here’s some advice on how to handle this responsibility for your wedding reception. Don’t forget to have fun doing this! If there’s a certain design element to your wedding bring it into the bar presentation, maybe you can have a particular signature drink, even try “His” and “Hers” signature drinks (your wedding planner can give you great advice here). If you’re a tequila man, then see if your venue can offer a tequila bar, this will definitely add a little heat to the reception. There’s also the option of a separate beer and wine station, a champagne bar, or even a full whiskey bar!
To “mix” things up a little, you can also offer an ice bar, martini luge, or different colored drinks for different tables. Colors are the best and most affordable way to play around with wedding beverages and create an interesting and classy atmosphere for your wedding reception. Make it appealing to your wedding guests by using interesting glasses, cute little colored straws, fresh garnishes like oranges and cherries, and even colored ice!
The Wedding Band
Not all men are excited about the jewelry and even though you may not want to wear a ring, at least you can pick your own individual style out. There are many different styles and metals of wedding bands that you can choose from. It can have one or two indented lines, grooves, have a hammered pattern, or just be plain. Different metals have different colors and properties. There is yellow or white gold, which are both great quality and can be made to fit any size finger. Platinum is fabulous because it’s a heavy weight can make you feel like a man, however, it is a little more expensive than your other options. Sterling silver is nice and affordable; however it is for a man that likes more of a shiny ring. Titanium and palladium are popular choices because of their colors and they are very light weight. Another popular choice is tungsten. It’s great because it has a very dark, unique color. If you are a gem guy, you can discuss with you jeweler the qualities you want in a wedding band. Decide on a budget or at least a price range – depending on the style, metal, stones, and design that you are looking for, you may even be able to custom-design your ring for an affordable price.
The Honeymoon
Our favorite….The Honeymoon!!!! YOU can plan the honeymoon. While your bride-to-be is planning the wedding details, you can to start planning your getaway. You can begin booking the flight(s), accommodations, food, and activities. For todays groom-to-be this is lots of fun because you can enjoy searching through websites for great deals and places to go. You shouldn’t plan the entire honeymoon without inquiring with your bride-to-be. Be sure to ask her advice on where she wants to go and what she wants to do. You can book and plan all the details, which many women will find very romantic. Recently, one of our North Carolina grooms planned an entire getaway honeymoon to Italy all by himself. Our bride had no idea until the night of the reception, how ROMANTIC!
To all the grooms out there that think they have been forgotten, please know that there are things for you to do and ways to contribute that you can enjoy. Be sure to attend your food and cake tastings! You can also request a signature drink taste testing, if applicable! Remember that choosing metals for your wedding band, looking up places to go scuba diving, and booking fabulous dinners for your honeymoon can be your contributions to make your wedding unique and memorable. And remember, your wedding planner is always there to give any advice or assistance you may need!
xoxo,
Katie and Jill
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